Mom guilt is real; about as real as the back in my lower back from childbirth. I love my children but let’s be honest, it’s rare that they affirm me on a daily basis. It’s time we pull ourselves up by the bootstraps, Moms, and look in the mirror and repeat these positive affirmations for moms to ourselves.
I know, it may seem silly at first to stand in front of a mirror and talk to yourself but there’s proof that this works. A Carnegie Mellon study conducted in 2013 showed that self-affirmation improved problem solving under stressful situations for college students. Without getting all technical sounding, if you needed more proof to practice positive affirmations I like this quote from the article, “According to Walter E. Jacobson, M.D., there is value in affirmations of this nature, because our subconscious mind plays a major role in the actualization of our lives and the manifestation of our desires. What we believe about ourselves at a subconscious level, he says, can have a significant impact on the outcome of events.”
How to practice positive affirmations?
You can say the phrase of positive affirmation to yourself silently in your head, you can look at yourself in the mirror and say it, or you can write it down. I was a pretty serious swimmer when I was a kid, serious as in Michael Phelps hopeful serious. When I was 12-years-old, I had to swim the 500 yard freestyle (20 laps) and I was dreading it the entire day at school. I decided that I was going to write all over my paper that I loved the 500. I repeated it to myself over and over again, I told people that I loved the 500, and by the time I was at the swim meet ready to swim the 500 I was still repeating in my head how much I loved swimming the 500. What happened? I shaved about 30 seconds off of my time! That’s a lot of time to drop in one race. Positive thinking, positive affirmations work friends. I know they do.
Writing down your positive affirmations may work better than speaking them because there’s permanence in the written down, whereas speaking or thinking, can be easily forgotten. Do whatever is going to work best for you.
Positive Affirmations for Moms
Positive Affirmation for All Mothers
- I do not need permission to feel glorious.
- I am doing my best as a mom and that is enough.
- I am the best mother for my children; I was born to be their mother.
- I am important in the lives of my children.
- By allowing myself to be happy, I inspire my family to be happy as well.
- Mistakes and setbacks are stepping stones in my motherhood journey because I learn from them.
- Happiness is my choice.
- Only I can give my children a happy mother.
- I am a blessing to my children.
- I am doing an amazing job.
- “A mother’s love liberates.” – Maya Angelou
- I am my child’s lifelong teacher.
- I trust my maternal intuition.
- I will talk about myself the way I would my best friend.
- I am learning to be a better mother with each new day.
- Today I will notice the positive aspects of motherhood.
- “The strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” – Barbara Kingsolver
- I will take care of myself in order to be a good mother.
- “There is such a special sweetness in being able to participate in creation.” – Pamela S. Nadav
- I am grateful for my ability to create life.
- I will remember to put my oxygen mask on first.
- I choose to take care of my self.
- I will have fun doing the mundane today.
- I deserve to put my feet up and relax.
- I will be kind to myself.
- I become a more confident mother with each new day.
- Being a mother makes me feel beautiful.
- Being a mother has shown me how strong I am.
- I am raising adults who will contribute to the good of society.
- Motherhood reveals my strengths to me.
- I will play with my children today.
- I will make memories with my children and ignore the dirty dishes.
- The decisions made by other moms do not need to dictate mine or how I feel about myself as a mother.
- There is no such thing as “just a mom”.
- My children will remember the time we spend together, not what they were given.
- I love my children even on the days I don’t particularly like them.
- My children love me and are thankful for me, even when they don’t say it.
- I will show my children what it means to take care of yourself.
- I will build into myself so that I can parent from a place of rest and happiness rather than exhaustion and bitterness.
- “I know how to do anything – I’m a mom.” – Roseanne Barr
- I will not worry about small details today.
- I will turn away from judgement today.
- “There is no influence so powerful as that of the mother.” – Sarah Josepha Hale
- My children do not care about my flaws.
- I do not expect to be a perfect mother.
- I will leave my expectations for today and what it should look like at the door.
- I will embrace the here and now.
- This too shall pass.
- I am calm and peaceful under pressure.
- My children will feel accepted and loved unconditionally by me.
- I have feelings that deserve to be recognized.
- Asking for help does not mean I’m a failure.
- My imperfections today are not important.
- “Never look back…it distracts from the now.” – Edna Mode, Incredibles
- Today is just one day.
- As I teach my kids today, I will also be open to the lessons they can teach me.
- My family sees the best in me.
- Every challenge I face make me stronger as a mother.
- I will show my children how to advocate for kindness and justice.
- I am more than enough.
- I am lovable and deeply loved.
- I take care of my body, mind, and soul.
- I love and accept myself exactly as I am.
- I am unwavering in my love for my children.
- It’s going to be okay.
Positive Affirmations for Working Moms
- I am working hard to support my family.
- I love my children just as much as I would if I were staying at home.
- Today I will find peace in being good enough because perfection is impossible.
- Everything thing I do serves a purpose for my family.
- I am the best mom for my children.
- I will laugh and play with my children when we are together.
- I will be an intentional parent.
- I am not comparing myself to the mothers around me; I am the perfect mother for my child.
- I am a positive role model for my children
- I got this!
Positive Affirmations for Single Moms
- All that I need is within me.
- Stronger than I was yesterday.
- I am stronger than I seem. I am braver than I think.
- I am grateful.
- I have a great life.
- God gives strength to single parents.
- Single parents are brave; I’m brave and courageous today.
- I find time to have a social life.
- I have kind caring affordable sitters whenever I choose.
- I have those who are willing to help when necessary.
- Being a single parent is part of what makes me unique.
- My children and I form a strong bond.
Positive Affirmations for Stay-at-Home Moms
- When there is chaos around me, I am the calm.
- This too will pass.
- I fully embrace today.
- I will laugh with my children today.
- I am more than just a mom.
- My job at home is worth millions.
- I am leaving a legacy of love.
- I will do what I can; no one expects perfection.
- I will take care of myself.
- It’s okay to ask for help.
- I might not see it now but the time I’m investing in my kids does matter.
- My children will not remember a pristine house, they will remember the time I spent with them.
- My home is a safe place.
Have you practiced positive affirmations before? Tell me your favorite way to talk nice to yourself.
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As the creator of the lifestyle blog and book, Me Before Mom, Bert supports millennial moms facing the challenges and changes of motherhood. Me Before Mom is an online community that offers support through real life stories, encouraging advice, and answers to questions about how a woman maintains herself during this self-sacrificial time of parenthood. Stories from Bert Anderson have helped women across the globe through the Huffington Post, Today’s Parent, and on the Harry show. Whether weathering the first year of motherhood or walking through the later stages of motherhood, Bert has helped many continue to find herself while still in the throes of motherhood. Purchase your copy of Me Before Mom: Putting Your Oxygen Mask on First today!