๐™€๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฎ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ ๐™„ ๐™๐™–๐™™ ๐™ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™ฃ ๐™—๐™š๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™„ ๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™ง๐™ฃ๐™š๐™™ 40.

I am not an โ€œexpertโ€ but I have a lot of life experiences and now Iโ€™m looking at the years ahead of me and I realize that Iโ€™ve reached the age my parents were when I discovered they were in fact aging. When I look back through my life, the ups and downs, the joy and sorrow, I am compelled to believe that the only way to make those painful moments worth it is to pass the lesson learned on to the younger generation. Every betrayal by a friend, every time I acted out of jealousy, every reaction that wasnโ€™t warranted, everything that was painful at the time had to have been for something, right? There is more to this life than my own experience. Henry Glassie said, โ€œHistory is not the past but a map of the past, drawn from a particular point of view, to be useful to the modern traveller.โ€ Consider this, young traveler, a map drawn by me to you.

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๐—–๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด. Itโ€™s scary because itโ€™s unknown but sometimes the best things happen when we change. Sometimes to become your true self, you must physically leave a place and start fresh.

๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป. Donโ€™t waste emotional energy or time lamenting over how much you hate it. Either change the situation or change the way you look at it so you can get through it.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ. Those things are religion, politics, and any other viewpoint that is controversial. Life is hard enough already. You donโ€™t need to add your two cents to every single conversation.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜‚๐—ฝ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ, ๐—ป๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—น๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚, ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑs ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ. Donโ€™t change who you inherently are for anyone. Maybe itโ€™s a friend, maybe itโ€™s a partner, but the second you stop being yourself, and start trying to be somebody else, youโ€™ve lost. Thatโ€™s not love. Love doesnโ€™t ask for you to live a lie.

Love is not a feeling, it is a choice. You make the choice to make a relationship work through time, distance and any other situation or problem that may ariseโ€ฆfeelings ebb and flow and change like the wind. Love is steady and constant. No one ever said feelings were constant.

๐—Ÿ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด, ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ. You make the choice to make a relationship work through time, distance and any other situation or problem that may arise.

๐—Ÿ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ฏ๐—ฏ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ and ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ. Love is steady and constant. No one ever said feelings were constant.

๐— ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฑ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐—ธ. Thereโ€™s no shortcut around the middle school years. You must go through that stage of being awkward and uncomfortable. Youโ€™re barely a teenager, not a young adult, and most certainly not a child. Youโ€™re in this in-between stage. Itโ€™s confusing.

๐—”๐˜„๐—ธ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ.

๐—•๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ, ๐˜€๐—บ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ. Look the other person in the eye and acknowledge them. It will get you farther than any gift money can buy.

๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ฑ. Sadness makes us feel vulnerable. It Involves opening yourself up, letting someone in and allowing them to see a part of you that is fragile, broken even.

๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ฑ. Sadness makes us feel vulnerable. It Involves opening yourself up, letting someone in and allowing them to see a part of you that is fragile, broken even.

๐—”๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€. Nobodyโ€™s going to give you an award at the end of your life if you were able to do it all on your own. Thereโ€™s no medal for being completely self-reliant. If youโ€™re too proud to understand this, then do it for the people who want to help you. It makes them feel alive.

๐—จ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐˜€, โ€œ๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜†.โ€ It doesnโ€™t matter if you didnโ€™t mean to hurt someone, it doesnโ€™t matter if you were joking, the road to Hell is paved by good intentions.

๐—จ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐˜€, โ€˜๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜†.โ€™ It doesnโ€™t matter if you didnโ€™t mean to hurt someone, it doesnโ€™t matter if you were joking, the road to Hell is paved by good intentions.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚โ€™๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด.

๐—ฃ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ท๐—ผ๐˜†๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ฑ. Chances are, youโ€™ll come back to them when youโ€™re an adult.

๐—ฃ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜†. Play when youโ€™re a child. Play when youโ€™re a teenager. Play when youโ€™re an adult.

๐—š๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ต ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ฟ.

๐— ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ. Movement is medicine.

๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜†. Donโ€™t be afraid of what other people think of your body either. The truth is that everybody else is too consumed with themselves and how they look. Theyโ€™re not thinking about you and how you look. However, if you do meet someone whoโ€™s paying attention to how you look and seems to care deeply about it, there is a deeper issue that lies within them. Itโ€™s not your problem.

๐—•๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ. Be kind to your body. Treat it with respect so it can move easily and bring you from one place to the other.

๐—Ÿ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ท๐—ผ๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฑ. Taste and see that it is good. And it is good! Donโ€™t use it as a crutch. Donโ€™t use it as a prize. Enjoy food when youโ€™re celebrating with your loved ones and use it to fuel your body.

๐—š๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐˜†. Every single person needs to see a therapist. If the pandemic taught us anything it should be that all of us need to see someone for our own mental health.

๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ธ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ, ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป. We need face to face interaction. We need to touch each other. We need to see each other. We need to hear each otherโ€™s voice. I need to look into your eyes and make a connection with you. I canโ€™t do that through a computer screen.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ. You canโ€™t take those words back. Anything that you do not want repeated should never be written down.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ. You canโ€™t take those words back. Anything that you do not want repeated should never be written down.

Try your best to live away from home for a little bit of your life.

๐—ฆ๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด โ€œ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€โ€ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ณ๐—ฒ. Maybe itโ€™s with your family, maybe itโ€™s with some friends, maybe itโ€™s with a certain community. Wherever it is or whomever it is with, make sure that you get a chance to return. Itโ€™s good for the soul.

๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜… ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ด๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐˜„ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ. Allow them in and let them see who you truly are. I canโ€™t tell you how to find these people, but I can tell you from experience that divulging your inner most secrets right away is not a good idea.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ด๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฎ ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ณ๐˜‚๐—น ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€; but if you feel like you must do this, stop and think about why youโ€™re sharing. Answer these questions in the quiet of your heart: Are you trying to prove something to somebody? Or are you just trying to share your life? Are you trying to compensate for anything that youโ€™re missing?

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ธ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฑ, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ. Life is too short to live a lie. The truth always seems to find its way to the surface.

๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ. Donโ€™t take yourself too seriously. Nobody expects you to be perfect. Jesus is the only one whoโ€™s perfect and Iโ€™m pretty sure he had a sense of humor.

๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ. Donโ€™t take yourself too seriously. Nobody expects you to be perfect. Jesus is the only one whoโ€™s perfect and Iโ€™m pretty sure he had a sense of humor.

Find your faith. Find hope. Lifeโ€™s too long and hard to live without it.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐˜๐˜€. I didnโ€™t learn this until I was older.

๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ด๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ. Itโ€™s hard to be the one whoโ€™s left behind. With each person that leaves theyโ€™ve given you a gift.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜† ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜‚๐˜€. Sure, they might not be with us physically but theyโ€™re part of who we are. They are like little stars on a map. In the great ocean of life, itโ€™s like being able to look at the nightโ€™s sky and navigate your way home by using the stars. You see where each person has left an imprint on you.

๐——๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ โ€œ๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜‡๐˜†.โ€ You may find out one day that you actually are.

๐—œ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€, ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜๐—ต๐—บ๐—ฎ. You didnโ€™t choose it. Itโ€™s nothing to feel guilty about; the difference is that your asthma doesnโ€™t hurt the people you love the most. Mental illness can hurt those closest to you.

๐—ช๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐˜†. Crying is like, letting the part of us that hurts the most out, releasing it into the world and letting it go. If we donโ€™t let go, our pain just sits and festers inside. Itโ€™s all consuming and shows up in different ways like rage or anger, or in habits like alcoholism or binge eating. It becomes a hole in our life that must be filled.

๐—ช๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐˜†. Crying is like, letting the part of us that hurts the most out, releasing it into the world and letting it go. If we donโ€™t let go, our pain just sits and festers inside. Itโ€™s all consuming and shows up in different ways like rage or anger, or in habits like alcoholism or binge eating. It becomes a hole in our life that must be filled.

๐—ฆ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜‚๐—ฝ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ธ ๐˜‚๐—ฝ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€. Stand up even if it means going against the popular or socially acceptable way of doing something.

Sit next to the person who doesnโ€™t have anybody to sit by. Welcome the new person.

๐—™๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ. This person isnโ€™t asking you to change for them, they bring out the best in you the way salt brings out the flavor in any dish.

๐—™๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต.

๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด. It can get mundane, and it takes an awful lot to keep it romantic. Donโ€™t make your marriage all about the kids; once those kids are gone, itโ€™s just the two of you.

๐—š๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜„๐—ต๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ. Have fun together. Laugh.

๐—š๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐˜, ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€. Be confident and secure in your friendship. I wish I had figured this out 15 years ago. I spent more than enough time feeling bad about myself and ruining friendships that were perfectly fine because I was jealous and insecure.

๐—š๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐˜, ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€. Be confident and secure in your friendship. I wish I had figured this out 15 years ago. I spent more than enough time feeling bad about myself and ruining friendships that were perfectly fine because I was jealous and insecure.

๐—๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†.

Take this with a grain of salt or read this and heed some of my words of advice. Thatโ€™s all it is: advice.

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